Understanding Surrogacy for Gay Couples

Many gay couples are interested in starting a biological family, regardless of marital status. While they can’t do it alone, a San Diego fertility center can connect them with all the resources and treatments they need to have a baby. A gay couple must take the following steps in order to have a biological child.

· Choose a fertility clinic and doctor to facilitate the process

· Decide which partner will biologically father the child and provide the sperm (or choose a sperm donor)

· Find an egg donor

· Find a surrogate mother

· Undergo egg and sperm extraction processes

· Create a successful implantation

· Patiently wait nine months while actively participating in the development of their child

Many gay couples go on to have more than one child using the same egg donor. If each partner can biologically father at least one child, the couple can create a family in which the children have the same mother/egg donor and both partners get to biologically father one or more of their own children. Some couples are even able to have a single surrogate carry two children at the same time, with one fathered by each partner.

Creating a Successful Surrogacy

A surrogate mother is a woman who carries and gives birth to a baby that is not biologically her own. With certain fertility treatments, a woman’s body can be stimulated to accept a foreign pregnancy and successfully carry that pregnancy to term while her body adapts to the changing needs of the baby in utero.

In a traditional surrogacy, the surrogate mother is also the egg donor and biological mother of the child. Although sperm extraction is still required, fertilization can take place naturally inside the womb or artificially in vitro. In vitro fertilization still has a higher success rate than fertilization that takes place inside the uterus because the healthiest eggs and sperm can be isolated, successful fertilizations can be monitored, and fertilized eggs can be transferred to the womb during the blastocyst state for a higher rate of implantation.

In a gestational surrogacy, the surrogate mother is not biologically related to the child she carries. In the case of a gay surrogacy San Diego couples usually have one or both partners supply the sperm for the pregnancy, but this element is not required for surrogacy.

A gay couple can also choose to use both donated eggs and sperm to create their child and have a gestational surrogate carry the baby, but neither partner will be biologically related to the child. This option is closer to an adoption, but the parents are able to be involved in their child’s growth and development from conception and essentially begin parenting the child before birth.